Commentary: Reflections on adoption and the search for Loki

National Adoption Day would have slipped right by me, had it not been for a very touching post on Facebook by the adopted daughter of a cousin of mine. Many years ago, my cousin and his wife decided to adopt a little girl in addition to their own three boys. Although Christy was just 3 years old at the time, she had already been in several foster homes. 

In her post, Christy expressed gratitude for her adoptive parents and for giving her a life “that all children deserve.” She remembered meeting them and her brothers, getting a new home, toys and the pastor praying for her when she was dedicated at church. But there was also a sense of overwhelming fear.

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